What you have become is the price you paid to get what you used to want.
~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960

As humans, we have a tendency to act on emotions- to pursue happiness and satisfaction based on our fleeting day-to-day impulses. There is a huge difference, however, between needs and wants. At the beginning of the year, with its emphasis on introspection and self-development, we are much more in tune with what we need for our lives. That comes from much more than acceptance, but an active desire for change.

Change is necessary and healthy, but most of us resist it with a fervor and desperate excitement usually reserved for major sporting events and Black Friday specials. What we don’t realize, however, is that by resisting change we are fighting nature itself. Trees go through the endless cycle of the four seasons. Animals are born, live, mate, and die, sometimes all in the same day. Pilots are launched and canceled in their first season. Even the cells in our body never stabilize, but are constantly growing or dying.

I think it’s a powerful determination to take control of your life by understanding its innate transience, and resolving to choose the direction that your life will naturally develop in. You cannot stop change, but you can guide it and create the changes that you want to see the most in your own life.

Does that mean that unexpected or unwanted changes will never come? Absolutely not. But you will experience far greater growth, and when bumps do come up, you’ll be a person who can handle them.

If change is going to happen anyway, why not make it happen?

Photo courtesy of Self Personal.com.